It all comes down to attitude...

Have you ever met the kind of person, that no matter what situation or circumstance, they always find a way to highlight the negative?  Yes, you know exactly the type of personality I am talking about!  In fact, right now, you are probably thinking about someone you know who matches this very description.  There could be a zillion positives, but what do they focus on?  The ONE negative point, and if there isn't one, they either make one up or show no appreciation for the good.  The killjoys of life, taking the joy out of all things good or worth celebrating.  The other variety of killjoy is the one who finds every reason why something cannot be done for the sake of not wanting change; happy simply sitting in their little comfort zone.  You know, the "if it aint broke then there's no need to fix it" or "everything is working fine, why change?" mentality.  I am not talking about constructive criticism here - I am referring to the whiners and whingers that cannot help themselves by bringing negativity into every situation and environment. 

Pessimism is not one of my favourite characteristics.  In fact, it is one of the least on my list. I am so pleased that this attitude is shared only by the minority of this world.  Where would we be if this was a standard mindset shared by all?  I am extremely grateful for positive and progressive thinkers. I like to think I am one of these.  Well, at least I am working at it.  Working at being one that gets on board and says, 'this might be tough but lets find a way to make it work'.  I am also working at trying to think the best of everyone.  This can be a real challenge I know, particularly if the person you are trying to see good in is not particularly likable or, worse still, bearable.  But no matter how unpleasing a person may be, there is always something good that can be found or seen in them.  Sometimes one must dig deep - really, really deep!  If we look hard enough beyond the negatives, we will find it. It may even be just one positive.  


The way I see it, while I myself do possess some good qualities, I am not perfect. I would be kidding myself, or simply deluded, to think I was. Therefore, if I have any hope or expectation that others will put aside my flaws and imperfections, and appreciate me for my good points, then I must do the same for others. 

Let's face it, people do not get excited about spending time with killjoys - I certainly don't want to be known as one.  I want to be the kind of person that is a breath of fresh air in the life of those around me, who speaks positively of and to others, and has 'optimist mode' as my default setting.  I want to cheer others on in life, rather than tear them down.  Someone who gets excited about the achievements of others and is an encourager to those who daily cross my path.  To be that positive voice, even in difficult circumstances.  Yes it requires effort, and can sometimes be really hard work, however it is possible - and worth it!  


Next week, I am going to share my thoughts on the power of positive thinking!